My “I AM HER” Essentials

Trinity Church’s Girlfriends 2016 Conference is right around the corner. This year, the conference theme is “I AM HER”. I would define this theme’s woman as the woman being described in Proverbs 31:25.

“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” ~ Proverbs 31:25 NIV

Although I am often intimidated by the Proverbs 31 Woman, I can get comfortable with this “I AM HER” woman. I don’t think I am there yet, but here are some essentials that are important for me to feel strong, purposeful, and optimistic:

1. Pray and meditate on the Word of God daily. My best days always begin with time alone in prayer and meditation as soon as my feet touch the floor in the morning. I go directly from bed to brushing my teeth to carrying a cup of coffee to my favorite spot on my exercise mat. My time alone in prayer here prepares me for whatever I am going to face that day.

2. Exercise 5 times/week. When I finish my time in prayer, I start my exercise routine. I don’t think it really matters what type of exercise you do, just that you do it regularly. My friend, Crystal, is a triathlete. Her exercise regime requires more than an exercise mat.


My friend, Jeanette and her sister Dilicia, are Zumba instructors. I lovingly call them the Zumba Sisters. Zumba requires a pair of tennis shoes and a playful attitude.

The best thing about exercise is it helps keep your body strong and supple and it fights the impacts of aging.

3. Eat lightly. I am not one for dieting. For me, it takes too much concentration on food. I eat good food in moderation and enjoy an occasional piece of pie when I am on vacation!


4. Get a facial once a month and,

5. Moisturize daily. I strive to keep my skin and my hair as healthy as I can. I use lots of moisturizer on my skin and coconut oil and Shea Moisture products on my hair.

6. Create a peaceful home life

Creating a peaceful home life has been a goal I have shared with my husband of thirty years, David. No, we haven’t agreed with each other on everything, nor has every day been easy. We have had many challenges along the way but, we agreed early on that home was a safe zone– a place of acceptance, safety, and encouragement. Having a peaceful home makes facing the world easier.

7. Engage in adventure


In my life now, I am engaged in an ongoing adventure through a partnership with Cambodian Care Ministries. In the photo above, I am standing with some of the kids from that community. They were so excited about the prospect of beginning school for the first time in September 2015.The photo below was taken in August 2015 as we walked around the half acre property our team helped Cambodian Care purchase in remote Kratie Province. We envision a new water well for the community, micro-farm demonstration projects, vocational training, a church, and a health center on this beautiful lot.


8. Phone a friend Where would I be without my friends? Here I am with my BFF of over twenty years, Gina, wearing missions-chic fashion wear on a 22 hour trip from the United States to Cambodia last summer.


9. Serve others


There are so many ways to get out in the world and serve someone in need. My friends, Kathy and Elba, enjoy using their nursing skills to serve others on the mission field. Here they are in Kratie Province, Cambodia after a long day serving more than 90 children and adults in an outdoor, mobile clinic.

10. Embrace change

Change is one aspect of life over which we have no control. Change is constant. Change brings challenge and opportunity. I am constantly looking for opportunity in whatever change is occurring own life. Just the other day, my grandson and I were using iPhones together! I could hardly believe it as I watched him swipe the screen and remove a text message that popped on his mom’s screen while he was watching a kid’s video. I realized that Noah was going to learn things and go places that I will never have the time to discover, but I am so glad that we can learn some things together now!


What are your essentials for feeling strong, purposeful, and optimistic?

Ladies, I would love for you to join me at the Girlfriends 2016 Conference in Miami, Florida, January 15-17, 2016. You can register for the conference by clicking this link:

GIRLFRIENDS Conference 2016

(photo credits: Linda Freeman, Cambodia, August 2015; Miami, Florida, September 2015, and Key West, November 2015. Fit Sisters Miami, October 2015. Find the Fit Sisters at: Fit Sisters Miami)

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